Ever caught yourself chuckling over your own botched New Year's resolution? You're in good company at The Iron Table, where we swap tales of resolutions gone awry and the comical trials we endure. Imagine navigating the temptations of Facebook Marketplace or the siren call of pepperoni pizza while trying to stay true to our healthier ambitions. We've been there, and in this episode, we're baring it all - the missteps, the mishaps, and the strategies we've crafted to dodge those all-too-familiar pitfalls. And just when you think it's all about the laughs, we pivot to the serious business of seizing opportunities and health—because, as we've learned, there's no time like the present to keep our bodies and aspirations in tip-top shape.
Gift-giving and relationships go hand in hand, yet they can be a minefield of miscommunication and bruised egos. Join us at the table as we dissect the delicate art of expressing gratitude for that... interesting present without causing a domestic struggle. It's about finding the right balance between honesty and tact. But we don't stop there. We dive deeper into the gestures that say "I care," beyond the financial contributions—like those just-because flowers that can earn you some serious relationship brownie points. It's these nuggets of wisdom about love languages and appreciation that could be the game-changer your partnership needs.
Finally, we get raw and real with the lasting scars of childhood bullying and how these early experiences can cast long shadows over our adult lives. Are confrontations with past bullies cathartic, or do they simply reopen old wounds? We share our personal encounters and the tough, yet healing discussions that have shaped us. Plus, we look at the power of letting go of grudges, especially when they hinder the harmony in our current relationships. So, join us for an episode that's as much about reflection and growth as it is about camaraderie and chuckles. It's all happening right here, where every voice is heard and every story truly matters.
Ever caught yourself chuckling over your own botched New Year's resolution? You're in good company at The Iron Table, where we swap tales of resolutions gone awry and the comical trials we endure. Imagine navigating the temptations of Facebook Marketplace or the siren call of pepperoni pizza while trying to stay true to our healthier ambitions. We've been there, and in this episode, we're baring it all - the missteps, the mishaps, and the strategies we've crafted to dodge those all-too-familiar pitfalls. And just when you think it's all about the laughs, we pivot to the serious business of seizing opportunities and health—because, as we've learned, there's no time like the present to keep our bodies and aspirations in tip-top shape.
Gift-giving and relationships go hand in hand, yet they can be a minefield of miscommunication and bruised egos. Join us at the table as we dissect the delicate art of expressing gratitude for that... interesting present without causing a domestic struggle. It's about finding the right balance between honesty and tact. But we don't stop there. We dive deeper into the gestures that say "I care," beyond the financial contributions—like those just-because flowers that can earn you some serious relationship brownie points. It's these nuggets of wisdom about love languages and appreciation that could be the game-changer your partnership needs.
Finally, we get raw and real with the lasting scars of childhood bullying and how these early experiences can cast long shadows over our adult lives. Are confrontations with past bullies cathartic, or do they simply reopen old wounds? We share our personal encounters and the tough, yet healing discussions that have shaped us. Plus, we look at the power of letting go of grudges, especially when they hinder the harmony in our current relationships. So, join us for an episode that's as much about reflection and growth as it is about camaraderie and chuckles. It's all happening right here, where every voice is heard and every story truly matters.
Welcome to the iron table, where iron sharpens iron. So should men sharpen men. I am your host, bryant, edine, and I'm joined by my brothers, keith, danny and Steve. We're your waiters, serving you accountability and truth. We now bring you to our program, already in progress. All right, as you heard, with iron table, iron sharpens iron, so should men sharpen men. A couple of housekeeping things.
Speaker 1:As always, we do not own the rights to any music used or any of our segments, but we appreciate the talents and crafts of musicians and only use the music to honor their gifts. You can't hear me. You can read at the bottom of the screen. So again, I'm Bryant, got Danny, keith and Steve. We're going to just go right into it. It's been about a couple of weeks since we've last met, so I just want to ask the guys you know, hey, you know, new Year's is a time where we always have resolutions and we are about what. Today is the 12th, the 12 days into the new year, I'm what Today is the 12th, so 12 days into the new year, are your resolutions and how long do you plan on keeping it? I'll set the framework. Go first.
Speaker 1:My resolution was to is to stay off of Facebook Marketplace it. I didn't know how hard it was. As soon as I said it, I was looking at my phone on Facebook Marketplace. I said you know what I'm going to try to, at least for the first six months of this year utilize what I already have, the technology already have, or ask around for some help. It's like, for example, and I needed a boom mic to to calibrate my home theater speakers and my natural default was to go to Facebook Marketplace. Where I'm there and I see it, it's the first thing up there and every time I go back it's still there. But I said no, you can't do it. So I have, I have to go old school and go to Craigslist, where who knows who I'm going to meet. But that's my New Year's resolution. I'm going to try to keep it for six months. So if you ever hear me say I need something, please, please, offer it before I go to Facebook Marketplace and meet some random person. Now, craigslist not. A lot of people are posting on Craigslist and it takes them a long time to respond. So I didn't even know Craigslist was still around. So I'm hoping to to curb that, that joy of finding something going to a random place just like neighborhood. Please stay out of these back alleys looking for stuff. There used to be speakers. It used to be speakers, but I've calmed down, so that's what they have some on there for sale. So so that's me, that's my resolution.
Speaker 1:I know for six months, oh, and giving up pizza for six months. So I got to get my body ready for Cancun. So I give up the cheese, the dough and the in the meaty toppings. Ok, cheese, dough, meaty, that's all All right. So who's next? Come on, you can do it, you can do it, let's do it.
Speaker 1:Oh, I know it is today. Normally today is pizza day, but I was like KFC. I think you'll be. It's the Facebook Marketplace. I good luck. I need my friends in order to stop me. Either make some phone calls or or cancel some of my orders.
Speaker 1:You should, you sound young man. You, you making a choice to stop even pizza. I had no choice. You've had a certain point of age and that pizza sauce hit you. That's the reason I know it ain't no joke. So I could either eat it and hurt or not eat it in another. It's the next year I'm getting some of them supplements. No, that's spaghetti sauce with a big stomach up Certain pizza, that from tomatoes. So have you ever not that I'm trying to eat more pizza? But have you ever tried using a different type of sauce, the white sauce or something, any anything I try to use, I use no sauce. And then when I go to, when I go to Jets, I say no sauce and substitute with barbecue sauce and that helps. Barbecue pizza, oh it's good, I always, but it's good, I was. I thought it would be suspect, but it actually is pretty good, ripe, I don't know, or what's. No, is it cow's on with the sauce on the outside and strong bullies with the sauce on the inside. So can you just eat a cow's on the inside like like a regular where where the pizza sauce would be at. That's what they put the barbecue sauce in, its sweet baby raised to we. We started already. I don't want to write. You know I want to write. You know you got to go try it now. Yeah, it's funny story and I mean, keep noses.
Speaker 1:I remember trying to give up bread. Oh, yeah, good luck. I'm sitting there, just sitting there, like yeah, man, I gave up bread, talking to my brothers like yep, I'm sitting there eating pretzel sticks and they're like you do know what is this bread? This is bread. I was like F? Y'all, man, I'm trying, I'm trying to give up something. I'm like two weeks into it, like, yeah, I feel that I can feel my body getting stronger. Nah, you just eating, you know. So I threw the pretzels in the trash and just got a loaf of wonder, like what's the point? But this time I'm gonna do better, you try. You just didn't know. We tried to help you. We did for like five minutes straight. It was.
Speaker 1:It was you were so proud of yourself. Hey, y'all, I gave up bread because you just chomping on them pretzels. I haven't had bread all year. I just made pretzels instead. Y'all probably was like, uh, who gonna tell them? That's what made it so funny? Because we, like I'm sure I didn't, I didn't think I didn't add the pretzels was bread. I was thinking of dough. I was like you know, I had thin crust pizza, that's. That's not bread. It's not real bread. I'm about to start laughing again. My stomach hurts. I was lying to myself, so, oh my gosh. So you got a question up here. It's about New Year's resolution. I don't know when. The last time I made a New Year's resolution was. To be honest with you um, and maybe maybe that's me I have opted um. This year.
Speaker 1:My focus is kind of wrapped up into one word faithfulness, and my goal is to be faithful. So, like to put it this way, I can't control the outcomes, but I can't control the inputs. So my focus is the inputs. So if this were sports, the shot attempts, I'm focused on taking certain shots on certain parts of the floor and just being faithful with those things that my life and my business and my walk with the Lord, and so that's me faithful. That's the goal, good goal. And that input piece is important because that's what we have control of at the end of the day. So we're not partying.
Speaker 1:But as for myself, I for those who have heard me speak on this I don't do New Year's resolutions. I believe in the philosophy, as it is in the good book, of dying daily. So my resolutions wouldn't be a for, just necessarily for the year. It would be because it's a new day and I have the opportunity to do something different and to do something great. But because we have rolled into a new year, it does impact that because, like everybody else, I take advantage of all the wonderful food during the holiday season. So once that season ends, it's time to unfat myself. So not because it's the new year, only because all the food has stopped coming in, that's the first thing I'm going to have to get my get myself together.
Speaker 1:I've had a lot of friends and family, you know, get it become ill and I don't know, because I guess as we get older it becomes real, like when we start seeing our peers become ill and we start feeling ill. So we do our part, we do our best to keep ourselves up to par, but, and then again there's a lot of opportunities that are just jumping out and I want to make sure I'm available to catch all of them, or as many as possible. So I think I feel like this year is going to be a great year as it relates to opportunities and, just like Danny said, just being faithful and and prepared, ready, just consistent that's the word I'm looking for. I would like to be consistent this year, but not because it's a new year, just because I just want to be daily. That makes sense, that's what's up.
Speaker 1:Well, I concur with both of you guys, actually, when it comes to resolution, because I don't really do them anymore. What I used to do is? I would probably I would try to do my new year's resolution, maybe two weeks before or maybe a month before the new years, or maybe a month after the hype of the newness of the new years, of leaves or whatnot. But to be honest with you, I think for me, my, my focus this year is to use the blessings that God has given. And when I say blessings, I say you know, I make a nice chunk of change and I would definitely say that God has blessed me in that avenue and I definitely have time to utilize that chunk of change or whatnot.
Speaker 1:But you know, with that comes being able to buy a lot of stuff. Sometimes you know you got so much stuff you don't use some of the stuff too. So I got some drones that you know, high-end drones that I ain't even used yet, or whatnot. So my focus now this year is to use some of the blessings that God has afforded me to have and those that I don't use, guess what? I give my way or sell them. I'm gonna put them on Facebook market. Which one? You on there, he on there. Hey, I'm dead serious about them.
Speaker 1:Drones, they sealed brands, spanking, you know, dj, dji components or whatnot. So we'll talk. We'll talk. Lord told me to stop. I got it. I'll give him to you 50% off. For what? The sale price? Now you trying to offer me drugs? That's what it is. He get me in trouble all the time. He gets me in trouble all the time with these electronics. I would, because you better get by the get that new phone next week, huh, but, but.
Speaker 1:But in all, it's just being able to, you know, utilize the blessings. You know what I mean. Sometimes you have to look at certain things and just say, hey, you know, I'm blessed to have X, y, z, let me make sure that I use it. Just, it's full of his potential. And those who have don't have as much or whatnot. Don't feel afraid of just giving sometimes, instead of just, you know, oh, if I give you this, what you gonna give? No, just give it up, because if God's bless me, I can bless somebody else too as well and pay that stuff forward. So, yeah, I did that to somebody where some electronics, I just had an extra amp just laying around. He bought one at a discounted rate and I was like man, just take it. Was like you, sure, it was like man, just just pay it forward, because now we, like I said, we've all been blessed in different ways, different areas, and we knew how it felt when we got something that was unexpected or, you know, bonus, and so you know, just want to pass on that feeling because it might be the only the only bright spot that person got for that day. I mean, yesterday I sent you all the pictures.
Speaker 1:I got into an accident and, no matter what the guy did in front of me, we know we're in Maryland and Maryland is one of those states where if you like rear in somebody, you're at fault because you at least should anticipate or put enough space or distance in between that person. I didn't rear in them, but I gave him a police bump and the guy got out. I mean I could see that he was angry, my son was in a car, made sure he was okay, then got out, made sure the other guy was okay and you know I was just. That day was just a weird day because the accident, some, but then the blessing in it somebody was giving away a free pair of Converse Chuck All-Stars, size 12. I was like, oh, I just sent this. Is this gifting thing on Facebook, not on the marketplace, a little group thing, and I personally, if not too far from me, so I was able to get them in warm today.
Speaker 1:So that was a highlight out of a color, my color, my size, yeah, my size, my color. You said 12 that's. I was like man, I wear 12. I got 12 bills. But what's that? I mean what color? These were black, these were black. So I was like I like black shoes, I like black shoes, I like black people. So they trumps the black shoes. You got your wear, you got you warm today. Right, yes, I did my foot all stinky foot in there, so I don't think you want them. They're not fresh, no more.
Speaker 1:But it was nice and the ladies just said she had bought them for her, her, I guess, boyfriend, but he didn't care for him and I was like what I was like? You bought your man a just because gift shoes and he didn't want it. Then I ain't trying to start, nothing I said, but you know most men should like whatever their significant other gets in, just because I don't know this was the topic. But while we're here, let's okay, let's think about the frequency, the frequency that you want to receiving in. So just being on the receiving end you should be like oh man, thank you, I'm going to take it Now. If you use it, that's up to you. But to receive, just like we're all natural givers.
Speaker 1:But you've never been given a gift that you looked at that had one too many polka dots, or the color was just a little too fuchsia, or it's like it's like a sweater that just like like this tight and you and where you supposed to wear that? Oh, oh, I'm glad you brought that up because I got I'm going to show you all this this shirt I got for Christmas from a younger sister. Notice the neck hole. I'm stretching it. There was. There's no way I could get my head through this hole. And so when I put it on, that's a arm hole, I thought. When I put it on I was like, did I put this on backwards? I'm looking like the words in the front. You know, is it something? I was like this was at a regular. This is the Gordon Gartrell of t-shirts. I felt like somebody had their hand Turtle neck on. Turtle neck had more room to get. But so this is one of those things in my younger sister. You know, some of y'all know her, you know she, she gave it. She's good at Christmas. You know that five and below bag be thick with blankets and shirts and and socks and gadgets, you know. But I needed to wear a t-shirt that day but this was like a perfect edge up if I was trying to get a neck fade.
Speaker 1:You might never get a pass with your sister, but I'm talking to your wife, your spouse, your significant other. What happens when she gets you a gift you don't like, not saying you, I'm going to say you better, accept it, better, you better, if you want to come to this Dangerous dance, if you won't, you can't say they I like, you know, normally I like stuff like you know, but this color you I mean, is it? I mean, I'm curious, is it ever time to tell her that that's not your cup of tea? Yeah, never, because she, because the conversation stopped me as soon as you said normally, it stopped that in her mind. Now she's, she's on 10. As soon as she heard normally that's, everything else went out the window, because you just said it's Well, you're a daddy, yep, I ain't say nothing, so so, so she gets.
Speaker 1:Your wife brings you a bright orange, a bright orange sweater home, bright orange, you throwing it on and you won't wear it. No, no, no, no, no, no, no. I said I'm going to wear it, I'm going to accept it. Oh, thank you, thank you, what not? And you know, let's let time we're going to let time progress so that it gets darker. No, she's gonna say where's that sweater I bought you, I know you, this will go perfect. These, these yellow socks will go perfect with that orange sweater.
Speaker 1:And I'll be like, oh so I'm about to go find, I'm about to find it. I can't find it. I can't find it. I know, no, no, but see, here's the thing I've, I've, I've had wait, wait, wait, wait, don't try to clean it up. He had to go easy on him.
Speaker 1:I've hidden some things from my girl that I don't like, that she wears, and I haven't gone away. I just hit him in the place that I know she's like, underneath the mattress. She wears these, she wears these shirts with the tie, right here too, and I can't stand them. So I hide them and I let time progress and before you know it, you even forget your hair. So time is a very good sidekick for a lot of things. They are court stenographers when it comes to something that we do. They remember that stuff.
Speaker 1:So I take it a step further Give me an orange sweater. I'm going to go find orange shoes. Y'all might call me a punk, but I know who I'm married and I know who I sleep next to and I want to wake up. This is what you got to do. I mean, I'm pretty sure there's stuff that we get them that they don't really care about, but I feel like they get to tell us. They do get to tell us and we learn from that and we can adjust. I mean, you've heard, I've heard of it. Well, my husband got into black shoes, but I really wanted the white ones. And we'll say, oh okay, well, I'll go get or keep the black ones, I'll go get those, like we will not be. No, no, no, no, no, exactly, it won't be a problem, exactly.
Speaker 1:But there are times where I notice that if we say, uh, orange sweater, ooh, babe, wow, shoot, where am I even going to wear this? Like you don't like, like, like the niece to go and go and try, you don't like it. I don't even get to that point. We have to watch our facial reactions. They must be either ecstatic or stoic. You can't be in between, and maybe this is because I'm the single one in the bunch, but like I'm going to probably say something oh wow, look at the bright orange. Wow, wow, interesting, that's the class right there, cause most men don't.
Speaker 1:We don't know how to accept a gift. I think, logically, we get caught up in the moment at our faith. Our poker face is gone. We just just this is, this is orange, it's not a comp. We just start stating facts yeah, this is great. We go, this is straight to facts. This is bright. Oh, shoot, it's a shirt too. You got a hole, three, four holes.
Speaker 1:But my thing is. But my thing is at what point does should your woman start to? Then? No, I can see year one or two, but after a certain point of time, shouldn't your woman know you and know exactly what you like? Just like we should, at a certain point, start to know what our woman likes and get her things accordingly Right. I think we should be able to see what our woman likes and get her things accordingly Right. I think we should.
Speaker 1:But I think when we don't tell them and we just, and we just normalize accepting any gift, oh, we can't do that Right, if. If it's not the right one. It's not like sometimes you have. We have to be specific, not to hurt feelings or not to upset but in, but there are times we have to say I look, that's all. Everybody, everybody's out.
Speaker 1:I think I want to try to give a different color. What's wrong with that? You just say it's not my size. Let's go get a different size and hope that they don't have that Right Like, oh man, they don't have an extra large in this Cause. Then there was also you hiding it under the bed, under the mattress.
Speaker 1:But okay, so when? When is the in a relationship? When do you express that? This isn't your cup of tea? Can you, can you do it Is? I'm thinking in the first, the first 15 seconds after that, you just got to, you just got to just be okay with it. I must be a butthole because I offer it. Just be like um, sweetheart, this ain't gonna work and I just said it. I'll just say it. I hope I'm not being I'm not asking that too Like, because it's like I don't want you to get the wrong impression that bright ass, orange shirts is my thing and I just have to go throughout life accepting something that doesn't work for me Cause at a certain point in time, but get pissed and you go by like, well, I've been buying these orange shirts for, for, uh, for this whole time.
Speaker 1:Yeah, yeah, I'm with you, steve, like for real, for real, I the. The one exception to that for me would be like on a Christmas morning, like if she bought something as Christmas. Yeah, wow, thank you so much, wow, so many gifts I've given. Now I'm starting to question no, but, but like I think it's disingenuous to um, especially if she said do you like it? I ain't gonna lie, I'm sorry If somebody asked me.
Speaker 1:I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, but if somebody asked me, do I like something, I'm not going to say I like it, I'm going to say it's different. That's my word. I don't have anything like this, you know, or every one that watches this is going to look at the word different as I hate it. Just saying, sometimes it is not always what the reality is. Sometimes, when we say that that's what, no, I don't, I don't like it, it's different. We have wives, we have daughters. Anytime they have come down and said look at my dress or my skirt and we don't like it and we're trying to figure out what to say to not crush. That's different.
Speaker 1:Most of us have said that at some point and it's okay. You like that, I see, you don't like it. I like the blue dress the best, right, because that one make you look like, yeah, so I think. But then they flip it. So you're saying that I look better in the blue dress than I did in this dress. Yes, absolutely. So you don't like this dress. I like the blue dress. I like the way you look better in the blue dress. Yes, so I can wear this dress and you'll be okay. I didn't say that Because then it's like, why even ask us how they look if you want to wear that dress anyway? Right, because they want to hear you say, oh wow, that's beautiful.
Speaker 1:And that's not gonna be the case, and that's not always the case. That I ain't gonna lie. That used to get me in trouble, because I'm not gonna lie to you. I'm just not. I'm not gonna lie to you. I'm not gonna beat you over the head and tell you you look like mud, but I am gonna tell you the truth. You know what? I think?
Speaker 1:I got the cheek, oh, guys, and I just realized this I just want to say that in order to be able to be to come to the table and be able to even have that conversation and be able to say what you want to say, you offer it have to go so above and beyond with your gift that she has no other choice but to listen to you. And I'll just say, even for my situation, I've always heard my girl talk about her dream car as a kid. What she always X, y, z, just always I'm listening to this, or whatnot. So I ended up for her birthday some years back buying her a 79 triple blue Corvette with 30,000 miles on it. So this was a very expensive old school car or whatnot. But I just thought about that. Ever since then I have a little bit more say so and what it is that I say.
Speaker 1:Even her friends have said hey, you know, he got about good 10 years of. He can do whatever the heck you want. So you come in the house soon, he come in the house. You just ask him where, where, where to put it at. No, that's it. That's her friend saying.
Speaker 1:It's not always teaser about this, but again, sometimes as men we have to go so above and beyond certain things that you can just sit back and just be able to have your opinion about. You know, not so much with this, because if certain things that we don't do and we try to then have an opinion, then we definitely go and get some some, some constructive criticism, as they call. So what? What can the normal non-car giving brothers do? Hold on, I know, navy blue, light blue uniform. I think Danny's even wearing that blue shirt. That's only I don't know. I only know two blues, don't that? Don't have access to finding that vehicle, or that. What can I mean? You gotta listen.
Speaker 1:Though it is, it may be maybe for her, maybe it might have been for somebody else, it may be. Hey, you know, I have a dream this, I always thought about that, or these are the things like I would like from my man. Say, friends, I would just want flowers for my man, you know, every so often, just because if you're consistent with that, then you've got a little bit more room or more bandwidth To say how it is you feel now if you ain't been meeting that demand or that thing that she's talking about. Yes, she's gonna look at you like you know, look at you like what, what reasons should I take your opinion For true for anything? Or what I just said, that we got? You know, they say it like that, but again, sometimes it's just figuring out what it is that you've done in order to be able to set a table. Okay, so I'm glad you mentioned that because I was wondering, like, how do we change the net?
Speaker 1:Like those brothers is out there that says, wait a minute, I'm providing a home, I'm providing, you know, monetary, I'm doing all of that. What you're asking me to do is extra. Is that necessary? Is that yeah, yes, yeah, if you love your wife, if you love your woman, yes, it is Provision and and like monetary, that's the baseline. That's not above and beyond. That's not Consistently doing. That is the baseline.
Speaker 1:Out there saying, hey, I'm providing, I'm doing all this other stuff, why do I need to get flowers? Why do I need to? You know, take her out to eat all the time in nice restaurants or buy or close. I should be just good enough just by myself. I'm the cake. Why do I need that? Does she let you have sex? Okay, you see what I'm saying. Does she let you have sex? Because this is something that, that she, that they give us this, is that's it. I'm sorry, it's a gift, you know, I mean we can't just say, hey, I demand this, so what? I mean, we can see how that works out for you. But again, for those that we're in a relationship with, that is something special that you know she is giving us. That.
Speaker 1:You know, if we think about it, you know, a lot of times our first mind when we're meeting somebody, it is Physical, you know. So my thing is, you know, we have to look at on both sides of the coin what each other is doing. You know, not just a man, but you know women. So what is this person providing for me? What is the particular thing that I like, that I need, that I want that this person is giving to me willingly and assessing it from there. And it might not just be sex, I'm just. I'm just saying what's one of the some of the major factors that we as men think About? It's like, hey, you know, I'm providing, I'm this out there. Yeah, she opening her legs for you too, brother. So I mean, to each they own.
Speaker 1:Sometimes there is some, you know, some give and take when it comes to certain things too as well. So always thinking about what it is that we're receiving as well. Now, if you ain't receiving nothing, then that's a different story, definitely a different story. Oh, that's for all the women out there after Steve spoke, spoke up for him. They're asking that same question like, well, how many times you have a sexual man? He was like, uh, real, uh. Uh see, what happened was I was three, I was reading, I was reading three thousand books a year and, uh see, I got time. But that's, that's definitely interesting.
Speaker 1:The brothers do need to hear that that we can't hide behind provisions and monetary gifts. It's, it's gotta be more. Yeah, it won't, it won't stick up. It's not more. Yeah, it won't last. Okay, speaking of three thousand books, yeah, I'm gonna. I gotta put this up there.
Speaker 1:I didn't watch it all, but I know y'all know about me, the brother, the cat Williams incident where he was at. I don't think that that's the original intent of what Shannon Sharp was trying to do, because I don't know if any other ones have lasted. I think I saw like two or almost three hours where he was just Firing off Start to finish. Yeah, and no one usually has a time to sit that long, but a lot of people. I guess they watched it in chunks, but I know, as a as a man, if I feel Disrespected or slighted, I'm going to go to that person and, you know, try to hash it out. Hopefully there's a level of respect.
Speaker 1:But what took him to that point and do you think that that was the right avenue? Did he come off, you know, as a person standing up for himself or did it look like he was a bitter, bitter comedian that was just upset of others that have been able to take the same craft and go further, do certain things I'm normally gonna talk about, you know, just. But there's a lesson to be learned in how to Approach life. If you've been slighted, if you've been wronged, if and you know is this the right way? Or even if you know, I guess it may not be a right or wrong way, but is there a better way? And is there maybe, from a Mental health sitting on the sidelines is watching In our behavior? Health standpoint, what could you like give Maybe a glimpse onto why he went that far, went that route?
Speaker 1:Well, I first say that I haven't seen none of it. I ain't got time to deal with my own life. That's why I mess with y'all. You speak the truth. Oh, that's that's me. I did hear whisper. You can't not have Existed around people I heard. You know he kind of got messy. For me, anytime somebody in Hollywood is getting messy, I'm always questioning like okay, publicity stuff. Now this person's price is gonna go up because they know what they doing and so I'm gonna share this. Oh, and they don't know that, and Can we verify that everything that was said was true? I don't know. I don't even know what was said, because I'm more dealing with my own life than I am kind of focused and consumed. Up Hit the button for the brother. Oh, my god, I Could not watch it straight because, again, I can say that I got life going on. I will.
Speaker 1:I watched segments and pieces of it and so, getting into what you, what you asked about, I Don't know. There's so many. There's so many avenues that can be dissected with this thing. My I'll speak on what my initial View of it was. This is I don't know what. No, I will say cuz I think it, I think everybody.
Speaker 1:It's like I told Danny in sixth grade we had a young man in our class that used to get picked on a lot and he used to get bullied and picked on and bullied and picked on. So I said, imagine this kid 30 years later, just just reading everybody who ever picked on him and bullied him, and just he, you could tell he's frustrated, I mean, but again it's, it's a situation where he's in pain, he's frustrated, he's angry about some things, but both, why now and why this way? But when, of course, they would drink it too. So when you know that liquid courage gets inside of you, you know the filter. The filter comes down. And so he I think he already came with the intent on purging, purging his soul and getting things off of his chest, because he wanted to confront Shannon Sharp as well on a the fact that some of those, some of those people he talked about, were on his show and like why he was asked, why didn't you ask this person is, or ask this person that? And Shannon had no way of knowing any of this. But it but again, once you get to drinking, logic goes out the window. And so it was a lot and, like I said, I couldn't. I couldn't listen to a lot, but but would you do see a person who has been, you could tell he's been hurt by that, you know, by that, by those group of people and he, it felt no shame in throwing him under the bus and Expressing how he felt.
Speaker 1:But my question is, with anybody who's ever been through anything because everybody, you know, has goes through something when is I mean? Where is the line I Mean can? It's subjective, everyone will have a different line, but we're talking about, you know, when you're using your sixth grade friend in our age, I mean how far back I Mean as well. Do people care? Do they remember, do they? Most people don't remember.
Speaker 1:I know someone now who is upset. He went back to his class reunion and he was upset with Everybody 20 years later because they used to bully him 20 years ago. And now that he has muscles and he's strong and he's been working out for the last 20 years, he wants everybody to you know, to see that he's changed. And everybody like wait, we did what we said. What like you mad at us? What do we say to you? What do we, what do we do to you? And he's like you, we did well, it looked like it worked out in your favor, you not. That, no more. Oh, this is me. I'm just saying I mean y'all, just y'all, point no facts, right? Well, I didn't like it, but it's at the time. It hurts the person's feelings. So, yes, they held on to it and became a super. It was the, or is the, origin story for a supervillain.
Speaker 1:But at what point are we not growing as Human beings where we're still stuck so far in the past that we can't even objectively look to certain things to just say you know what? Let's just say, for instance, your friend from elementary Okay, kids, they're your kids, you know what I mean. And looking and just seeing how kids are and objectively looking at your situation, like, okay, you know what. They were kids. Maybe they don't even remember. Am I so stuck into my feelings and how I feel that I am not willing to move past that? And what have I done since then? Who am I trying to prove this to? Why am I trying to prove something to everybody else except for myself? Why am I trying to win the hearts over of everybody else? So there's some further reflection with that that we have to be as human beings, looking at our growth and our lack thereof, even with this whole situation with the Cat Williams thing.
Speaker 1:I had a really interesting conversation with a group of actually strangers, from one of my girls that went to a birthday party and they were all talking about it and I'm just sitting back listening to everybody, and, with this being said, because I hadn't seen it at that point and I had to tell people, I said one thing that you don't understand is that, with how the world is and how the internet is and how we are able to ingest so much information, you've got to be careful about guarding your energy, right, because this energy is going to also then if you see, this is pretty much at the basic form, this is gossip, point blank period right? This is then going to, in turn us to be able to be more prevalent to gossip with everybody else, gossip with the people at work, gossip about your neighbor, gossip about your friend, because that energy that we're all ingesting, that we're all talking about, is catchy, you know and I had to reference them to back. I just say, hey, there's parts in the Bible, you know, I think in Psalms, where it talks about. You know, be wary of somebody that frivolous talk. We don't need to just frivolously talk about certain things, we don't need to just gossip about things, because that end of itself lies, that somebody is not being humble enough. And we talk about even the accolades. That where of the Cat Williams is? You know he talks, I think, in this thing. He said he has 12 Netflix specials. That's good. You say, well, they don't have this, they don't have that, okay.
Speaker 1:So at this point, what's the problem? And in that it for itself, for us. I had to tell them. I said we're talking about these people as if we know them day to day. You know you're engaging in energy over millionaires that don't even know you exist. Yet there's a part of your life that needs to be probably looked at or you need to hone in on, but you're not, because your energy is directed to things that don't even concern you. And so many people don't have a hard time understanding that this doesn't concern us. And just like we talked about eating certain things eating bread, eating pizza, how it's bad for our body we don't realize that sometimes the energy that's in these screens that we're ingesting is bad for our mind and our spirit until it's too late.
Speaker 1:So is it ever okay to be entertained or find entertainment? Yeah, I mean it's, if you can distinguish that it's actually entertainment. You have people that play video games to think that this is real life. They think that they can just, you know, get wasted, you know, as in Grand Theft Auto, and they come back to life. It's no do-over, that's it. Grand Theft Auto. I'm just well, you know. But that's the but. Here's the thing with our kids, that's the popular term now you waste it. When they mad at somebody, they're now saying you waste it. You're wasted In reference to Grand Theft Auto.
Speaker 1:When you get killed, guess what? What does it say across the screen? Wasted, I don't know, you know so. No, but that's what it says. It says wasted, right. So, but again, in our head space, we are not able to distinguish what is actually real or not, you know. So you got a lot of people thinking that this is, this is real life, this is part of my life, this is what it is or what not, you know.
Speaker 1:So if you can't distinguish it not, yeah, I would just say it's time for everything, it's season for every activity. You know, the problem is when we we try to do too much of anything in a particular season, and so, if you broke, you shouldn't be watching 17 hours of Netflix before you go to bed and I like, if you are trying to advance your life, you should have a limited amount of regret, because it can become a distraction, keeping you from the things that matter most. And so those are my feelings and my thoughts. Oh, not, not, it can, it will become a distraction. Hands down, it will. You're right, I think we all can attest to that that there are things that when we're trying to focus and get things done, danny and I call we go in the lab. When I'm in the lab, I'm like, I'm I gotta. You know, I talk to you later. So it is necessary.
Speaker 1:But again, like you said, because so many people are out of touch with their own reality, they've grasped onto this world of entertainment as though it is theirs, like this is, they almost see it as it's their life. I'm with Kat. I saw so many people in the comments I'm with Kat or I'm with Steve, like, and they are embracing it and fighting over it, like they're actually going to get something out of this. Like sports, right, like sports like. So you mess with your fellas, steve, you're messing with them.
Speaker 1:Answer this question why, you know and I gotta go back because I wanted to ask a question. Well, that individual that came back 20 years later to tell his classmates off of how they made them feel. Why does it matter if he didn't rock with them for those 20 years, like they were not in his circle for 20 years? And why do you care? And I asked because this person said they blame the bullies for their damaged self-esteem. So as a child I grew up with this poor image of myself based on how they made me feel about myself. So all these years I've carried that weight and now I'm finally strong enough to shed that weight. And now I need to let them know now that I look different and I am different. I got money. Now I'm in shape. Now I gotta let these jokers know I'm not deal. So how are you really shedding if you've got to remind them that they hurt you? Because that's how this person is looking for healing. I gotta tell you what you did to me so I can move forward and I can show you I'm actually. I am somebody, because you made me feel like I was nothing. This is what they basically I'm basically.
Speaker 1:But that's the flaw, because you're looking to somebody else to reassure you that you're somebody and they can pick and you can go ahead and get all the muscles in the world, somebody can still pick apart something. That's some imperfection. And they did. They said again the response wasn't oh sorry, we didn't know we did that. The response was well, look at you down, you're welcome. That's how paraphrasing that too. They're like well, look at you, like that, I'm gonna tell you you are welcome. It wasn't me, your class is me. How will you say? That was my question. I mean, that's how people were in elementary school, high school, you joned on someone, you picked the flaw and you poked at it until you got a response. And that response, you poked at it until you got blood. Yeah, and that just happened. And what did that do?
Speaker 1:People picked on people so that what Nobody would pick on them Group mob mentality was there for survival. If you weren't funny, if you weren't athletic, if you weren't popular, you know. But those are the people that say I wasn't any of those things, so I was always a target. That's why they're angry. So that's why, again, you have a lot of angry people that grow up to. Just the whole motivation is to come back and squash everybody who ever said anything that ever hurt their beloved soul, and they are, like, that's their motivation, like I said, that it created a.
Speaker 1:This is the origin. What are all? The person has to do with saying I don't remember that. Then what? And then, and that's probably worse, like, who are you, what, what, huh, huh, what's your name again? No, that is worse, because it's like yeah, that's worse, that happens a lot. You carried this for all these years and now that you finally, now that you finally called me to tell me off, I don't even know who you are. So you, I don't remember this. Yeah, you can't remember every negative thing I did and I had no thought of you the last 20 years. I don't even know who you are. Well, I'll tell the story, and I know, keith, you were there for this. Danny, you're absolved.
Speaker 1:So remember, there was a certain trip that we went on and this person had their favorite stuffed animal. Yeah, look, keith, hold on. Yeah, what we did was the person was. The person was me. You were in that bus, I was, no, I came back and I saw, I saw the massacre. I wasn't on the bus when it happened. Continue, okay. So, keith was on the bus. I mean getting out of this. I was not on the bus. I'm telling the story. You're not getting out of it, okay.
Speaker 1:So I mean, and yeah, that was teenage, you know, if your person's gone, if this person's gone, be a butthole, we're going to hurt you because you've been a butthole. Do we really mean to? The reaction that we got was bad. You know, I felt bad. I didn't do the actual dude, but I was probably like Ruben in the Bible, like well, we can't kill him, but you know, maybe just, you know, rip up the coat a little, throw some blood, put them in this hole, you know, and years later I hear that person would have nothing to do with us. But I mean, we were, we were teens. Everything we did back then was either for comedy, for just, I mean teenage angst, but now it's what? Bullying and just. I can't be held accountable. It's crazy. I don't know. I'm not a bad person, that was the only thing I did.
Speaker 1:The modern world we live in, the statute of limitations on bullying is, I don't know, she might be in a pressure charges and the play devil's advocate with that too. You know, understanding that. You know people on the other shoes. They feel extremely hurt and this hurt can last a lifetime. But I believe it's also on individuals as well to be growing as individuals, to have a understanding about the human condition, of that. Hey, this person in elementary, middle school or high school hell, even college 20 years or 30 years after those episodes, that person probably may not be the same person that they were back then. And even to say, even as kids, understanding that kids are just little demons, period, you know, they're just. You know. So, my face, he's going all out on little demons. Man, you're going to be working on some of those schools, man, it's just, you know, it's just. You're forming your own personalities or whatnot.
Speaker 1:But again, to say that when a kid is bullying, let's just say somebody's bullying somebody at the age of seven or eight years old and we reunite with them at the age of 40, 45, we can't possibly think that that same seven year old is this 45. At a certain point in time we have to have some type of insight about, hey, you know what? Let me find out who this person is now, because at that point we're saying that we're still stuck. But there are some people who also get stuck and it's like, nope, he was terrible in elementary school, so he's probably terrible. He probably still eats glue. Now Look at him. Yeah, so you're an adult yelling at a child, at an image of a child. That is and that's it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and that's why then you have individuals that get into relationships that can't let things go with their spouse, because they couldn't even let go of things happen 40 years ago. How do you think I can let go of you not buttering my bread or cutting off the crust off my peanut butter and jelly sandwich, like I wanted you to do? Now I'm mad at you and I'm holding grudges and I'm telling you there's so many couples right now it's, I'm sorry there's so many men, men in relationships, holding grudges, stupid grudges, that it's like can we just let things go? We talk about women being very emotional. No, we are very emotional because we can't let things go and it's sad to see that people think that, and sometimes we only do what we allow, what people allow us to do, right, but again, at a certain point in time, you have to have an understanding of letting things go. And if you can't let things go that happened 40 years ago as a kid, and we're talking about something like this I can't hope to expect you to let go of certain things that are going on now, and sometimes some major things or whatnot. So that's this, that way of thinking, impacts how people go about relationships in their life and they wonder why they have so many problems. Okay, so we're gonna wrap this up what can? Because we're gonna have to go back to that as far as men not really letting stuff go and we're holding on to things, and we probably learned that at an early age and elementary by being bullied and probably not having the words to tell someone to stop, and especially if it's in a group mentality, you're talking about one person against many trying to say leave me alone, stop, don't stop making fun of me. We'll have to find out a way. What do you mean when you say those things? I think sometimes we say those things but after it's all over we don't know how to move forward. So we're going to have a discussion later on. We can run that next. Yeah, we have to run that next.
Speaker 1:Parting words for today. You know anything, because we got one brother, that is you need sleep, we all need sleep, but you know it is kind of late and tomorrow I got snow tubing, snow tubing with the kids, so looking forward to sliding down a slope and coming back home with him, because if I don't yeah, it's always wise to come back home with the kid, even if she says come back home with the kid and if you don't, don't come back home. Don't come back home, so you all have a place for me to sleep. Until you do so, any last parting words, last thoughts, we'll go in a circle.
Speaker 1:I learned something today Triple blue, that's my parting words. Triple blue, okay, I'll just say for me, you don't have to answer everything that people say about you. An example that we have is Jesus. He just told this piece that people are going to talk, they're going to say whatever they're going to say, and there's a time to be silent and there's a time to speak. There's a time to speak, amen. So, um, I got something for the ladies. I got something for the ladies and the men's. Let's just even just saying about, member guardian, your energy and thinking about this whole cat Williams thing, and not even just that in of itself. Think about those who have watched the entire thing.
Speaker 1:It was a three hours, right, or two hours, one of those. It's about three. If you're able to sit down and listen to frivolous talk about something that is in concern you for three hours. When's the last time that you picked up a book and just set with a book for three hours? If you can do one, then you can do the other, or in prayer, or in silence. Oh Jesus, you know what man? We just don't have to have our own buttocks to be able to do one. You got to be right. Just never mind, because you know how I well, I wouldn't even know. You're right. You're right or in prayer, or in silence, or talking to God. And that's there we go. That's my thing, I know. I just said I had a whole book. One thing, but that's it. Being in tune and having that conversation with God is paramount in this day and night. Having a conversation. All right, fellas, it's been real.
Speaker 1:I ain't got nothing more to add today, as always, iron table, iron sharpens, iron social men, sharp and men. Well, it's closing time. We are glad you stayed with us this long. The bill oh, we tore that up, for truth and accountability are free. You want to leave a tip? Sure, we take your money. But what's even better is if you share this with someone. You know. But there's always room for more at the iron table. Thank you.